Adulting 101:What can we do to survive it
So after spending a substantial amount of time learning and trying to get a hold of this blogging dilemma, I came across the term Adulting. Honestly, I was shocked to see how much content resonates with this particular term and after a little research, I realized that is the phase my life is currently going through. I am soon turning 21 and no one told how hard being an adult really is. And since this adulting thing has no instructions I thought why not share some of the things I have learned and spill some of the 101's we all need to get through this phase.
Now, most people
believe that adulting is concentrated around money and finances, but in this
post, I took an all-round perspective on the topic. From money to character to
relationships all these are laid out and gotten from experience and research.
Handling Finances.
In our twenties, most of us are either in University,
starting our careers or just figuring our lives out. Whatever it is we're not
exactly at full financial capacity and mostly depending on our parents for
money. I have been away from home for two years and I have learned that
learning how to budget is an extremely important part of managing finances. You
may be thinking you have heard this all before right, ok I will give the most
common example. Have you ever blown through money so fast you can't remember
what exactly you spent it on, that's where having a budget plays an important
role. Clearly stating your income, how you spend it on priority expenses and
having the discipline to stick to it will improve the way you spend your money.
Another important part of handling priorities is spending
money on priorities, usually, the choice between what we want and need is an
uphill battle. Poor choices like splurging on luxury items but still having
more important expenses is an irresponsible move. The priority here means to
take care of what you cannot live without and then consider everything else, so
yes you can live without that nice bag until you pay your rent.
When it comes to
finances you are not in a competition with anyone and that is why you need to
live within your means. When it comes to finances it is always important to
stay in your lane and spend what you can afford. Just because your friends can
afford can do certain things that does not mean you can. If you have very
little to work with there are always hacks to help you to get more out of your
money but the one thing you don't want to do is collect a debt to fit in with
the crowd.
Setting Goals
From as early as I could remember people always used to ask
me what I wanted to do when I got older.
I had so many ideas but the older I got the clearer my path has become.
Adulting is all about taking responsibility for where our lives are going even
if the path seems unconventional. It means taking time to set goals, set a time
frame to achieve them and get a move on achieving them.
Out with the procrastination
Procrastination is the number one enemy of progress my dear
people. Is there a person on earth that does not suffer from the temptations of
procrastination? Personally, I have been dealing with procrastination for a very long time
and it took its toll on me in my first semester at University. I was always
behind on my assignments, classwork and my life was in a complete mess.
According to the Psy Blog, one of the biggest ways to avoid procrastination is
to stop making excuses. Stop saying you don't feel like it or that you work
better under pressure fact is life is easier when you sort it out on time.
Another thing to avoid is waiting for the right moment because there is no such
thing, if there is something to be done,
do it and stop waiting for that superficial perfect time. Whether it's
losing weight or acquiring that skill there is no better time like the present.
Responsibility and Reliability
Character building is an important activity that reaches its
budding stage during adulting. Yep, you guessed it right its time to get up and
be responsible and not only for yourself but the people around you as well.
Becoming an adult means people have expectations that they expect you to
fulfill and as a reliable adult. These two aspects of your character show
people that you can be trusted and do whatever is required for you to do.
Dealing with Relationships
With over a billion people on the planet, we need to
understand that not every relationship is worth our time. There some
relationships that don't benefit us in any way and successful adulting means
those friendships got to go. If the people around motivate you to do better
then are those people still considered friends like the saying goes bad company
corrupts good character. The same goes for ourselves we need to support our
friends an family aswell and push them to be the best versions of themselves.
So what happens when you are failing at Adulting
Life has so many growing pains and failing Adulting happens to be one of them. However,
it's ok to fail at it is and don't feel bad and think other people are getting
through this phase better than you. Take things one step at a time by
acknowledging your failures and improving on them. There is no clear cut way of
succeeding on this matter but you can build your progress one day at a time.
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